Book Review: In Other Rooms, Other Wonders by Daniyal Mueenuddin

   

Fascinating book overcomes deep-seated reading quirks.

As regular readers of My Porch will know, in the pantheon of quirks related to my reading habits perhaps none is more stubbornly ingrained in my psyche than my inability to embrace (or even read) books handed to me by others. Don’t get me wrong, I have read many, many, wonderful books recommended by friends and bloggers. But there is something about the act of someone actually handing me a book, and the expectations that go along with that act, that makes it hard for me to want to read the book. This knee-jerk aversion is almost entirely a function of deep seated control issues that makes “no” my initial response to almost everything. Thankfully I have worked hard on getting over that and even if I say “no” right off the bat, I will often quickly change course to “maybe” or even “yes”.
Back in May we were visiting friends in Sonoma, California when we got to talking about books. One of our friends handed me In Other Rooms, Other Wonders and said that he thought I would enjoy it. Working against my natural inclinations, and trusting this friend’s judgment, I cheerfully accepted the book and was intrigued with its premise. But then I get back to DC, the book gets added to my nightstand TBR* pile, and the reality of “no” starts to hover over the book. Not only is it languishing unread because of my control issues, but it is a collection of linked short stories. Normally, short stories are not my cup of tea, but last year I read a number of great collections that had me rethinking my dislike of the form. And there was still one other hurdle to overcome. The stories are set in Pakistan. Nothing against Pakistan, but my reading tastes tend to focus on North America, the UK, and parts of Europe. Xenophobic as it may be, I am just disinclined to go beyond that geographically and culturally narrow (but richly populated) band of reading material.
So, In Other Rooms, Other Wonders sat and sat until the TBR Dare prodded me to look at it in a new light and with some enthusiasm. Granted, I was thinking I would just read it to finally get it off of my plate, but at least I was going to read it. Imagine my surprise when I ended up liking it.
Each of the linked stories are wholly compelling. As I often discover when I read outside my comfort zone, I was fascinated by the contrast between the action and setting of the stories and my own comfortable life. Interwoven around a modern day feudal landowner, his family, his employees, and his servants, the stories run the gambit from the halls of wealth and power to the basest of living conditions. What was most surprising to me was the corrupt, wild west kind of mentality that pervades most of the stories. Either as background, or as a major component of the plot, and in every socio-economic strata, corruption is everywhere. And for so many of the characters, rich and poor, the corruption is both the reason for their situation as well as the avenue for escaping poverty or maintaining wealth. Some of it is garden variety greasing the wheels of justice and business with bribes, but in other cases it is violent and desperate. And as with women all over the world, the women in the stories are the ones most often at the biggest disadvantage, many resorting to sexual favors for survival. (Now that I reflect on it, I am struck by how well Mueenuddin writes about the plight of women.)

As gloomy as some of the scenarios can be, they are not without beauty and humor.  And Mueenuddin paints a vivid picture of life in Pakistan. One can almost feel the heat and smell the food. In Other Rooms, Other Wonders was a National Book Award finalist and it is easy to see why. I am glad I overcame my natural disinclination to read this book. Had I not, I would have missed out on a fascinating world and a well written book. And it will make me less resistant the next time someone hands me a book. (But don’t do it until after April 1st when the TBR Dare ends.)

*TBR = to be read

Super Bowl Sunday

   
If you are like me you couldn’t care less about football and the Super Bowl. So I thought I would try a different kind of super bowl Sunday. Also check out this week’s Sunday Painting, and my TBR Dare update.

Footed Bowl by Frances Palmer

Hammered Stainless Steel by Simon Pearce

Ceramic bowl made by a friend.

 

Urchin Bowl by Element Clay Studio

A bowl in the spa at our hotel in Chiang Mai, Thailand

Basalt bowl by Wedgwood

Ancient Celtic bowl

Beautiful, simple ironstone bowl found on Faded Plains

Lots of bowls at John Derian

And how could I forget hotty Jeremy Northam holding this golden bowl from
the movie adaptation of Henry James’ The Golden Bowl

TBR Dare Check In

 

At just over a month into the TBR Dare, I am, for the most part, loving it. As you may recall, rather than reading from my full TBR pile of some 300+ books, I decided to narrow the dare down to the 42 books in my nightstand. Since I had such a wide range of books in my nightstand, I have been actually having a great time focusing on them. I also have the added satisfaction of moving through some titles that I have been avoiding or have been slow to warm to. With the exception of the Henry James and one book that I decided not to continue with, I have enjoyed even the ones that were previously hard to get into. It can sometimes be rewarding to be “forced” to read certain books.
This morning I was perusing my library and was struck by all of the books that I want to read. It was the first time since beginning the dare that I really had the desire to read something off limits. As I sometimes do, I started to leaf through 1001 Books You Must Read Before You Die. In doing so, I realized that I have read two more of the 1001 since the last time I leafed through it (War and Peace and The Golden Notebook). I also began to notice just how many of the books in my TBR pile were also in the 1001 book. I have never consciously purchased books with the 1001 list in mind, so it is particularly interesting that so many of them are on my shelves. And thankfully 11 of the 42 in my nightstand are in the book. So instead of getting frustrated while leafing through the 1001 book, I realized just how good my nightstand TBR is and how it should be a cinch to get to April 1st without failing the TBR Dare. Plus, just think how many more titles in the 1001 book I will get to check off come April 1st.

I couldn’t post about this without noting that, like all lists, the 1001 book is by no means perfect. They have a pretty good cross section but it is heavily 20th century, I guess critics don’t read many classics. And in some cases I think they highlight some authors a little too much. Although I like Ian McEwan I think they list too many of his books especially when some great authors aren’t included at all. And does any list really need that much D.H. Lawrence? Of course it has all the ones you expect by Lawrence, but it also has several I had never even heard of. I also think it has too many Amis, pere et fils.  I understand the list/book keeps getting updated since my 2006 edition, but I am not going to try and keep up with that. I am certainly not going to buy a new copy.
So, in a nutshell I am really finding the TBR Dare to be quite satisfying.

Of these books (my nightstand TBR pile), the following are listed in the 1001 book:

The Amis, Bowen, Cather, Coetzee (Petersburg), Eliot, Le Carre, both McEwan, both Mitford, and the West.

Winners of Virago Giveaways

 

The winner of the random draw for my extra copy of The Lost Traveller by Antonia White is:
 Susan in TX
So email me your mailing address Susan. A little bit of Virago will be heading the Lone Star State.

The cover contest also turned into a random draw since everyone who sent me an email got all four titles correct. It must have been easier than I thought. How did you all do it? What was your technique?

Since Virago have agreed to fulfill the winner of this competition, I decided to pick two winners. Virago will take care of one winner and I will take care of the other. The winners can be found after the images of the mystery covers.
And the two winners out of 21 correct entries are:
Michelle Foong and Karen Librarian

Both of you have one week to email me and let me know which Virago currently in print you would like to have and where it should be sent.

Thanks to all who entered. It was a lot of fun.

I forgot I owned this Virago

 
[On this final day of Virago Reading Week I have not just one VRW post, but three. Here is the third and final for the day. Scroll down to see the others.]

Earlier this week I posted a picture of all the Viragos that I owned that I wouldn’t be reading during Virago Reading Week. Absent from that photo was this book by Barbara Comyns. It was on my shelves where I keep all my other TBR books that aren’t in my nightstand and which aren’t part of some other collection in my library (e.g., Persephone, VMC, etc.). So I was somewhat surprised when I noticed it today. Especially since Barbara Comyns has gotten a fair amount of notice among book bloggers lately, and this book in particular was the subject of one of Simon’s posts this week.

I am in love with the cover, and based on all the Internet buzz, I really want to read it today. Alas, I can’t. I will have to wait until after April 1st.

Oh, danger, I just read the opening line and really, really want to read it today. Must. Be. Firm.

A few weeks after my tenth birthday I was sent to stay with some very horsy relations in Leicestershire.

Book Review: Love by Elizabeth von Arnim

  

Thankfully for both Virago Reading Week and the TBR Dare, I actually had two Virago’s in my nightstand so I could participate in the former and stay true to the latter. I had a wonderful volume of Edith Sitwell letters and Love by Elizabeth von Arnim. I didn’t get to the Sitwell, but I did read this fascinating von Arnim.

[Aside: Somewhere outside my window right now there is a bird trilling away. Not sure what kind but it is making me really happy.]
The only other von Arnim book I have read is the wonderful The Enchanted April. I wasn’t quite sure what to expect with this one. Even after reading it, I am not sure what I think. I certainly enjoyed it, but have so many conflicting feelings about the story itself. The big theme of the book is the gender double standard when it comes to May-September relationships. A younger woman married to a much older man is acceptable, but the reverse, a younger man married to a much older woman, seems just short of a tragedy. Perhaps in the days of Demi and Ashton and the rise of Cougars, this isn’t so much the case today. But in 1925 it was certainly true. What makes the double standard even more glaring from this period (and earlier) is that the chronological gap in the ages of the young female and the older male is not just a matter of 10 or so years but more like 20 or 30. Can you imagine being married to someone 30 years your senior — or junior for that matter? At my age I would have to wait another seven years to find a partner since someone 30 years younger than me wouldn’t even come of legal age until 2018. Yikes. And what on earth would I ever have in common with this person? 
But I am getting a little ahead of myself. Forty-seven year old Catherine is assiduously courted (today we would say stalked) by 25-year-old Christopher. After doing her best to throw cold water on the situation Catherine finally gives in to the love and interest Christopher shows her and they end up marrying. Yes, he makes her feel young, but more than that she is starved for love and affection. The lack of which in her life isn’t apparent to her until she goes to stay with daughter and son-in-law and is made to feel like an unwanted third wheel. 
But here it gets complicated. Catherine’s much much older, now dead husband left her comfortable but somewhat poor so that in the event of his death a fortune seeker wouldn’t marry Catherine for all the wrong reasons. Instead he leaves his money to his daughter. Of course her husband controlling her life from beyond the grave is maddening enough. But the fact that her daughter has married a rather unpleasant vicar thirty years her senior and they now inhabit the house that was once hers adds insult to injury. Catherine never minds it as much as I did. The gall of a 49-year-old man, to marry a 19-year old who he has known since she was FIVE I find utterly repugnant. The 19-year-old Virginia may love the predator Stephen and be happy in the relationship but no one will convince me that it isn’t anything more than the Stockholm syndrome. The man was an active part of her life since she was young child and then he, and the other adults surrounding her think it acceptable for him to go in for the kill. It is disgusting. No 19-year old knows her self (or his self) well enough to enter into such a lopsided arrangement. But even here I digress, the issue in this book is not the age spread so much as it is the double standard.
Long story short, Catherine and Christopher get married. Despite loving each other very much, she looks and feels her age and it starts to bother him when an emotional crisis leads Catherine to forgo her expensive hair and make-up regimen that helps keep her looking younger. And the fool Christopher is repulsed by it.  Even during their courtship, Christopher often commented on how “tired” Catherine looked whenever he would see her in daylight. Well duh. Although the book ends on a hopeful, but ambiguous, note, I have a hard time seeing good days ahead for these two. There were so many wonderful moments in this book, some touching, some enlightening, and some humorous. But the facts of the story itself I find tragic.
I can’t wait to read more by von Arnim. Her writing and her stories are fascinating.

Sunday Painting: Moment Musicale by Charles Frederic Ulrich

   
This could be a vintage Virago cover.

Moment Musicale, 1883
Charles Frederic Ulrich 1858-1908
de Young Fine Arts Museums of San Francisco
In honor of the last day of Virago Reading Week, I thought I would choose a painting this week that looks like it could be a vintage Virago cover. I think this one fills the bill quite nicely. I don’t think Virago ever has (or will) publish any E. M. Forster titles, but the image image also reminds me of the scene in Forster’s A Room With A View where Lucy Honeychurch is playing piano in the Pension Bertolini in Florence.
It so happened that Lucy, who found daily life rather chaotic, entered a more solid world when she opened the piano. She was then no longer either deferential or patronizing; no longer either a rebel or a slave.
And of course the Reverend Mr. Beebe’s assessment of her playing:

If Miss Honeychurch ever takes to live as she plays, it will be very exciting — both for us and for her.

I feel a re-read of this book coming on. But given my TBR Dare, I can’t until after April 1st. Then again I could watch the film for the 400th time.

Another Virago Giveway. This one requires much less effort.

  

I must have figured this out when I arranged the books on the shelves, but it wasn’t until I posted this picture earlier this week that I remembered that I have two copies of The Lost Traveller by Antonia White. I believe it is the third of a trilogy, but not having read them yet, I can’t say whether one should read the other two first.

In any case, it will be available to one lucky reader by random drawing. Just leave a comment on this post by midnight EST on Sunday, January 30, 2010 to be eligible. Will ship anywhere.
 

An interruption in Virago Reading Week cuts both ways

    
Until 1:30 this morning, we were without power for 31 hours. Thanks to about six inches of very wet and heavy snow, our neighborhood was again in the dark, and cold. It was a chilly 52 degrees F (11C) in our house last night when we went to bed. Needless to say, we were without the Internet for that same period which eliminated my ability to keep up with VRW online. But it did give me plenty of time to finish a Virago Modern Classic yesterday. All things considered, I would have preferred not to lose power.

The other thing that made it difficult is that we weren’t prepared for a storm and so both of our work Blackberries and my personal mobile were almost out of battery charge. And since we have cordless phones that require electricity to operate we felt really cut off. Then about 20 hours into the outage I remembered that we have a hardwired phone in the basement. So at least we had the comfort of being able to communicate with the outside world.

Besides having time to read–at least as long as it was daylight–we also got lots of time to snuggle with Lucy.

Last night to get out of the cold we went to see a movie. When we got to the theater the only thing playing that we thought would be tolerable was a film called No Strings with Ashton Kutcher and Natalie Portman (I think that’s who it was.) We were wrong, it wasn’t tolerable. It was awful. This is the kind of movie that convinces me that Hollywood should no longer make movies. Full of all kinds of inappropriate messages.

And I am so sick of Hollywood pandering to the straight man’s desire to see two women kiss/have sex. Which brings me back to the wonderful world of Virago Modern Classics. A world where if the women are kissing or having sex with each other, it is because they are Lesbians or at least are doing it for their own enjoyment, not for the prurient interests of salivating straight men.

Thankfully I am connected again and can continue reading all the other great VRW posts around the Intertubes.